Ebinsanyusa :)

This post is late but better late than never right?

So this week ebinsanyusa:

• I got my push present on Monday – a new set of rings! I was sooo excited! I love them! My jeweller did a good job. 

• Mwagala has slept for 9 hours straight through the night 3 times so far and I’m very VERY happy about this. I discovered that even though she was playing a lot during the day she wasn't spending all her energy so now I make sure she is tired enough to sleep through the night. Tonight she even fell asleep without breast feeding. She just started dozing in her high chair. Hahaha! 

• The one thing I've always wished I could change was on me is my nails. They never grow long and if they do they break almost immediately. This week however my nails have grown longer than they ever have and they haven’t broken! I almost can’t recognize them :-)

Mwagala Monday

Mwagala is becoming more and more her own person. She recently discovered that she has a belly button so each time she gets excited she pulls up her dress to show it to you. Sometimes she’s wearing a onesie and she can’t see her belly button but she still tries to find it. It’s the cutest thing.

So at church one Sunday we sat next to a lady who had a big button on her blouse. Mwagala pointed at it and the lady told her it’s a button. To which Mwagala quickly raised her dress, pointed to her belly button and said ‘Butto’. I chuckled and quickly pulled down her dress but she kept trying to pull it up to expose her belly button and show it off to her new friend. It was cute. But I didn’t like the idea of her showing off her body parts to strangers. Am I weird? Oh well, this week I’m teaching her where her eyes and nose are. At least that way there will be no lifting of dresses and such. So far, each time I say ‘Eyes’ she pokes my eye. It’s a work in progress J

Spouse or children - which comes first?

For some time now I have heard this question being asked. Who is a priority - your spouse or your children? Most times this question is followed by comments on how one cannot begin to fathom how a woman can place her husband over her children. And most times I do not join in the debate. But today I will let you know what I think.

My husband is my priority. He always has and always will be. I started this with him – just us two. My daughter is part of our family but she has no stake in my marriage. That is between my husband and I. Now, I love my daughter very much and I really cannot compare the love a mother feels toward her child to the love I feel for my husband. They are different and are both very intense. But when it comes prioritizing I know that my daughter needs to grow up seeing her parents in a loving, selfless relationship. She must see that love gives unselfishly and that her parents think of each other as important. She must see that we are a team. A team in teaching her what life is all about. A team in loving her. A team in disciplining her. A strong united team. And I cannot do that if I think less of my husband. I must actively show her that I think her father is worth respecting and loving. That he is worth her admiration. Otherwise, if I place her above him we become a team against her father.

I know that many women will be amazed when they read this. Some may even label me a bad mother. I’ve heard people say that one can always find another spouse but your kids will always be yours. In my opinion, if you treat your spouse like he or she is replaceable then you will, most likely, be replaced. And isn’t that what is killing our marriages? The fact that we go in with an exit clause? We don’t expect it to last so we always look out for what will make if fail. It’s no longer a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. And so we turn our attention to our children. We do all we can to make sure they turn out right without giving much thought to our spouse. But we forget that when God made the family he intended the parents to be a strong united team. He had a plan. Don’t mess with it or it will mess with you.

I know that my parents love me. I know that I’m very important to them. But I also know – beyond the shadow of a doubt – that they value their relationship way above mine. And I’m glad I got to see that. I got to see that a man cherishes and loves his wife – just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for it. My parents’ relationship made me feel secure. And I want that for my kids.

My marriage must be strong for my family to be strong. 

Ebinsanyusa (Things that make me happy)

I've decided to take note of the things that make me happy so every Wednesday I'll be blogging about things that have made me happy in the last week. I realised it's so easy to focus on what did not go your way and forget the simple things that God put in your life to put a smile on your face. 

So, introducing 'Ebinsanyusa' :)

I recently started using 'Soft & Beautiful Just For Me' hair products on Mwagala's hair and I'm in love with them. Plus they smell so good! Score! I switched from another hair product because I couldn’t get all the products and I was a bit worried but I’m so glad it all worked out. It really helps to soften her hair and make it easy to work with. Plus the scalp conditioner is not too greasy. Did I mention I love it? *sigh*

I’ve been reading again! I cannot tell you how much I have wanted to be able to sit back and read a book without worrying about Mwagala ripping the pages out. I started reading a book by Francine Rivers called ‘Sons of Encouragement’- five novellas about biblical men of faith. I’m loving it. I already finished one part which had me jumping for joy! I’m learning a lot about God’s mercy & faithfulness.

I’m driving a manual car! *fist pump*  The first time I drove alone I was so nervous that I couldn’t even eat breakfast. But now I don’t panic. And I’m enjoying my newfound freedom. Yay!