Stay-home mum misconceptions

 
I want to be a stay home mum once the kids start coming. In my opinion being a mother and wife is the most important thing that the Lord has given me to do. I can have a job and still give my family enough attention but I don't want to do it that way. My decision to stay at home has not been met with kind words from quite a number of people. There are a lot of misconceptions about stay home mums and I'm sure some of you have heard them before.

Recently, I was involved in a discussion on stay home mums with two gentlemen and I was the only one supporting the idea. Let me list down some of the things that are said about stay home mums which I believe are far from the truth:

• Stay home mums don't do anything the whole day. Well, I'd like to see a stay home mum  have 8 hours of nothing to do while the little ones run about the house doing whatever they want. Stay home mums probably have a lot more work to do than working mums. They have to feed the kids, clean the house, change diapers, make sure the kids don't wreck the house and still have a meal on the table for the hungry hubby when he returns. Now, doesn't that seem harder than sitting at a desk all day typing on your computer or sitting through meetings? 
• Stay home mums have zero ambition. On the contrary, stay home mums have A LOT of ambition. They want to make sure that their husbands and children succeed at everything they get their hands on. Gone are the days of housewives who were semi house maids. These days the stay home mum can work from home while keeping an eye on her young ones. It allows her to have a flexible schedule and to be her own boss. Ambitious? I think so.
• Stay home mums don't take care of themselves. At some point all of us women get too comfortable and stop doing our hair and nails every week, we start to wear cotton pyjamas instead of the sexy lingerie we started out with and many times this happens even before the kids show up. Am I right ladies? Sure its hard to stay in touch with fashion when you have kids and have put on some weight but it does not make it impossible. Every woman needs to stay on top of their appearance and it takes a little work. Sometimes we may get a bit lazy but we need to give ourselves a good scolding when we do because our husbands and kids need to be able to say with pride "Look at my mum/ wife."  My point is you don't have to be a stay home mum to 'lose' it. You may have to work a little harder but it's NOT impossible.
• Being a stay home mum makes one dull and they never know what's happening out in the world. Seriously?????? Have you not heard of the internet???? There are good books to read too. In this day and age there really is no excuse for staying in the dark.

I remember telling a friend of mine who is a stay home mum that I would like to do the same. She looked me straight in the eye and asked me if I was ready for it. When I asked her what she meant she explained that there will be a lot of people who will look down on me for choosing to stay home. She said sometimes people don't want to involve you in intelligent discussions because they don't think you'll be able to contribute. I told her that I was up for the challenge and I believe I am.

People have asked me why I would go to school, get a good degree, work for a while and then give it up to look after my husband and kids. First of all, I did not go to school in order to get a job at the end of it. I believe my parents took me to school so that I would get educated and be able to exercise my intelligence. Therefore, school should have taught me how to seize the opportunities that come my way and should have improved my social skills.

Women have the gift to multitask and the special grace that God has given them to raise a family. I respect women who work and raise families - my mum is one of them and she did a wonderful job. It's hard to do both and one has to make sure they have enough time for the family but it is possible.

I wish I could say that I can do the same but I can't. I want to be with my kids whenever I want to and to watch them grow into the men and women that the Lord wants them to be. Yes, I went to school and I'm intelligent but I have decided to be a stay home mum because I will feel more accomplished in that role. Please note that I'm not criticizing working mothers. I'm just saying that single mums have jobs too - 24/7 jobs along with rather difficult bosses :) and its ok to be educated and decide to stay home. 

I'm looking forward to spending time with my babies, cooking for my family and watching my family grow.

What do you have to say about stay home mums?

Changes....

The year has begun and it calls for a few changes in my life. I've never been the kind that makes new year resolutions because I did not think it was necessary but my darling hubby has taught me that having a vision is essential for us as Christians and one of the ways of acheiving our vision is by keeping track of how we're doing. And what better time to set goals than at the beginning of the year :-) Now it makes sense (eureka moment :-))

So I have some new year resolutions and I'm actually quite excited about them. I will share only a few because some of them are really personal. Here goes:

• Work hard at my salvation - with fear and trembling!!!! I've been going through the motions for a while but now I'm going to seek the Lord with all of me. I've already started and it's amazing!!!!
• Use my talent - singing. It's been on the shelf for a while but I feel the need to revive it. I'm praying for the opportunity to arise.
• Give my husband and my marriage a lot more attention. I plan on pampering him!!!! (I'm going to enjoy this one:-))
• Exercise :-) 3 times a week. I'll be doing this at home because the gym is way too expensive and I have a nice workout dvd that I can use. 
• Have the house properly organised by the end of February. We moved house in October 2010 and there are still a lot of things in boxes (no judging allowed!) So I need to get that done ASAP so that I can:
• Host more people for lunch and dinner :-)
• Read more books - especially on marriage. One every quarter - I'm a novel person so reading a book with no real story is difficult for me.

Realistic right? It's kind of exciting to have all these goals. I'll keep you posted on how they are all going but I'm looking forward to seeing that I achieve them all :-)
2011 you are going to be a wonderful year!!!!!! Thank you Lord :-)

All I wanted for Christmas....

Was a new phone. And now it's here!!!!! I'm so excited! It started out as a joke. I kept telling my hubby that I'd like an iphone because my phone was falling apart (literally) but I really didn't think I would get one. Then he told me that if I really wanted it that's what I'd get. I could not believe it!!!! I was super excited!!!!

So the search began. I wanted the iphone4 and we looked around for one within our budget but we couldn't get one that was unlocked on our budget. Then we thought maybe we should get the iphone3GS. But when I asked around I found out that an HTC would be much better than the 3GS. My brother's girlfriend had the HTC Desire so I took a look at it and fell in love. And the price was right up our alley. We had a friend order it for us and I began the 'long' wait.

It arrived on the 31st and I got it yesterday!! It's as lovely as I knew it would be. Here she is - the HTC desire....

Yes, I'm that crazy about gadgets!!!! The next few days will be spent discovering my phone. My hubby is worried that I will not might not speak to him for a while because I'll be attending to my new phone. We'll see :-)

Thank you for the gift honey :-)

Happy new year!!!!

Happy new year!!!! 2010 held a lot of good things for me. I know that 2011 will be so much better! In 2010:

• I married my best friend in May :)
• We went to Egypt for our honeymoon. (Sorry I lost the photos so I can't post any:-()
• My parents celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary in April.
• I got two jobs- one really crappy one that I left for a much better one.
• I got a new nephew in August :-)
• We moved house in October.
• My dad got a big promotion!

That's just a bit of what happened. It was a great year but I know that this year will bring more wonderful things that you'll get to know along the way. 

This year I decide that I needed to get a new look so I cut my hair!!!!! Just a bit. And I'm loving it. It was getting a bit troublesome to comb and keep styled but now I'm all smiles. Here are some before and after photos.

Before

 After

I want to cut it some more in the middle of the year but the hubby is not too happy with that idea so I'm launching Project 'Make him agree' :)

Christmas day

Christmas day was cold!!!!!!!!!!!!! It rained the entire morning but we got to snuggle up and read the bible together. We read the story of the birth of Christ.
There truly is something magical about that story. I always feel like I'm reading a fairytale when I read about the angels that announced Christ's birth and how the wise men followed the star and brought him gifts. You know the part when Herod tells the wise men to come back and show him where Jesus is so that he can kill him? That part always amazes me. How dare a man think he could kill the son of God before he had completed what he had come to do? He had some nerve!!!!!! But you know what God could not stop him from doing evil because He can't mess with free will- we decide who we want to follow.I'll keep that in mind.

In the afternoon we went to see some of the rapids with a few friends who were staying at the same place and we played a game of pictionary. I had never played it before and I had so much fun!!!! We decided we're definitely going to buy the game - along with Scrabble and Monopoly of course :)

Walking in the rain

River Nile

Oh yes he did :-)

Macho men!

I know you all want to know about my Christmas gift right? Well, my darling hubby got me a new phone!!!!! The HTC Desire!!!!!! My phone was tired - so tired!!!!!! We ordered for the HTC online and it's not arrived yet but it's getting here this week. Isn't he sweet? I love gadgets (he doesn't get it) so I'm happy to be getting a new toy to play with :-)

My old phone - I've had it for close to three years and it was beginning to fall apart

The back cover could not hold anymore - it's a wonder I didn't lose it

My new baby!!!!!!! So exciting!

 I hope you all had a lovely Christmas :)